Who are the men in your life?
That was the question repeatedly posed to me by my mentor in college. He said that I always need to be a guy who pursues other men in my life. Men who know me through and through. Men who can ask me the hard questions of life.
It was some of the most sound advice I've ever received.
We all want to be surrounded by people who know us well. But we want them to come and find us first. We want them to pursue and initiate with us. The result is that many young men and old find themselves stuck in self-pity waiting for someone to come alongside them. I constantly have to remind myself to be the initiator, to start the process, to simply ask.
I sat with a wise gray haired mentor this morning at breakfast who reminded me of these truths. We don't meet on a weekly basis. I don't formally call him my mentor. We're not going through a curriculum together. We're just doing life together. And I know that I need older men in my life to help me become a better man myself.
I am thankful for all the men who have stepped into my life whether by my initiating or not. And to all the men out there both young and old who are reading this blog, I have the same question for you that my college mentor would ask me, "Who are the men in your life?"
If you can't answer that, pick up the phone and call someone. Ask them to meet you for coffee, b'fast or lunch. Share life together. Every man needs it.